Thought you might like another positive story. I stood strong against the barrage of neckbeards, misogynists, fedoras and dtf doods on PoF. Just when I thought I couldn’t take it any more I stumbled across the profile of the fellow who would become my boyfriend. I met his parents last weekend and shared a beer with his dad. Don’t give up hope!
So, I’ve submitted my fair share of losers, perverts, and assholes. There ARE plenty of decent guys on OKCupid.
I got a message a few months ago from a guy, and it was a textbook example of doing everything right.
Mid 90s % Match. In my age range. Local. Similar views on politics, ethics, music, hobbies, movies, and religion.
Smart (without being pedantic or conceited)
Funny (without resorting to corny gimmicks, or WACKY answers)
His pictures showed he was handsome, and well dressed (without trying too hard, or posing with his ex-girlfriend, strippers, extreme close-ups of his “sweet tats,” his car, guns, or dead animals) No suspiciously blurry photos taken from 300 yards away.
Great shape (without posting a pic of his abs)
His profile told me a lot about his interests (without being too wordy), and what he was doing with his life.
His desired age range did not start with “18-…”
He wrote me a message that didn’t have any “urs” or emoticons, that indicated he ACTUALLY READ MY PROFILE, and pointed out some things we had in common, stated what he liked about my profile (without resorting to vague compliments like “interesting” or “cool”), and asked if I was familiar with a few things that he was into, that I was not. Good way to break the ice and start a conversation.
No PUA scripts. No Negging. No “hilarious” gimmick messages asking me to rob a bank, capture Bigfoot, or how many children or little people I thought I could take in a fight. (I get a bizarre amount of these)
We’re both pretty kinky, but you’d have to go into deep in our Sex questions to find that out. None of his messages were sexual, and he waited until I was comfortable in bringing it up.
We met for drinks, and his pictures weren’t taken seven years and 50 pounds ago. No “surprises” like, “oh by the way, I’m still technically married.” His profile was honest and legitimate.